JUDGING YOU MEANS JUDGING ME

Why is it that certain people and the things they do affect us like this? Psychologists believe it’s because these people have tapped into our insecurities.

It could be that we are embarrassed about something. Whatever the problem is, listening to what we say about others can teach us a lot about ourselves. How?

When someone irritates us or we criticize them, it’s often because we see things in them that we don’t like about ourselves and not only because we envy them.

Judging people and situations is vital if were to make the right choice about our future and avoid making mistakes. But if you find most of what you say is damning rather than discerning, you’re probably using criticism to cover up your own insecurities.

If it’s a genuine criticism, you’ll feel innocent or just OK afterwards. If not, it may be that you are hiding something you’re insecure about.

Focusing on the weakness of other people all the time could be a sign that your self esteem is low. Focus on your good points and learn to like yourself so that you are less defensive and become positive to others.

Here are a few tips for you to learn to like yourself;

- Write down five things that you know that you are good at, focus on your strengths. Pin them up where you can easily see them e.g. your mirror, above the sink of your bathroom sink etc.

- Hang around with people who help you feel good about yourself. Avoid people that will drag you down such as fault finders and moaners.

- Do not point out your shortcomings.

- Challenge the people that put you down and stay calm.

- Spend more time and money on your appearance to boost your confidence and make you feel good about yourself.

- Do not concentrate on your bad points. Make a list of weaknesses that you can’t do anything about. Go through the list and decide not to worry over them again. Set realistic goals to improve the weaknesses that you cant live with. Try to stand up for yourself more.

- Give yourself time to do the things that you enjoy most.

Thank you for reading and I hope you have learnt something helpful from this article.

God bless you and learn to like yourself.

TIP OF THE DAY; Next time you feel like commenting about someone, ask yourself this question: ‘Is this really my problem?’ After that you will find that other people irritate you less, and that you will like yourself more.